By: JN Tingcoy
Life is too short it ends before we even know it. The struggle really is not how long we have lived but rather on asking ourselves if we really have lived. I am already halfway on the average life expectancy and I have witnessed how people waste their time living as if it is as luxury. They greed for power, money and success without realizing what to do when they have gained all these. So let me ask you, how many of us do we expect to wake up the next morning the moment we sleep at night? Every night is a gamble, and it could be the last. Yet how many of us end our day frustrated, exhausted or simply ending it just like an ordinary day? Wouldn’t it be a waste if that happens to be your last? In that case, have you lived your life? Think it over.
We don’t number our existence by the digits of our pay grade, nor by the height of our mansions, nor the number of servants that would fall on our feet; we quantify life by the number of smiles you place on people’s faces, by the number of spirits you’ve encouraged and the number of footsteps you’ve changed for a better life.
So how do you avoid living up to eighty saying you never really have lived and simply reach twenty-five saying “I have lived life to the fullest”? Here are some points I want to share:
When you reach the climax of success, look down. Sometimes when we are too focused looking up on our goals, we are often too preoccupied to notice the individuals who led us there. Always have a sense of gratefulness; for nothing was (and is) actually yours and it could all go away in an instant. Success has its perks but always comes along with a price. My picture of a successful man is having everything he desires yet has learned how to live without them. To be truly successful, one must learn and be able to let go of all he has gained.
Always remind yourself of what is essential. At the end of the day, constantly ask yourself: “after this, then what?” If your answer, every time you ask yourself, is another desire, want or need, then it is not what is essential. What is essential simply means having it leads to a contented living. Many say life is composed of five balls to juggle: career, family, friends, health and soul. Out of the five, only career is a rubber ball that would bounce back in case it falls off; the rest are glass balls, with no room for error. Most of people say one must be able to juggle these five balls in close to perfection so that one’s life would be at a balance, without risking the glass balls. If you believe it to be true, then let me ask you: Why do you have to juggle in the first place? If you realize what are essential, you wouldn’t risk juggling the glass balls but instead keep them in your pocket – close to you.
Finally, never hesitate to extend a hand; you don’t know what the other is going through. It may be a rough day for you but extending a hand might turn another’s life. Try to keep a habit of sharing a random act of kindness each day. It works better if you’re doing it to a stranger: it may be sharing an umbrella during a rainy day, giving a wonderful smile or simply showing a gesture of gratitude. It does not only create value to the other but also creates a sense of fulfillment from within.
So constantly remind yourself: Life is too short it ends before we even know it. Learn how to live.